What Does He Want You To See in Him? By the signs (Masculine Identity)

21 Mar

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If you don’t understand much about zodiac signs and you are new to planetary signs, aspects, and houses, read the introduction here.

Mars is the planet of war, aggression, drive, assertion, energy, force, the sex drive, and male sexuality. He represents how we express our passionate natures and how we obtain anything we desire. Mars also represents drive, energy, and freedom. Mars is instinctive about survival. It can also represent frustration and aggression. Mars wants us to compete, to fight, and to climb over obstacles in life. He wants to accomplish something and be independent. He thrives on the rush of the moment. Really, he just wants to release some tension.

The sign he enters shows HOW we express our passion and drive. The house he enters shows WHERE we express our passion and drive. The aspects show how difficult or easy it is to use his energies in our life and how much of it we use.

Ever heard of the saying “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus”?

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In a man’s chart, Mars is his ruler. This is more of a socialized condition than anything. We have all of these planets in our charts and are capable of using anything for survival. But in our society, men tend to connect more with Mars than women do. Even though women are more active today, women still shy from most of the principles of Mars and women still expect men to be more active and driven than they are. Thus, Mars tends to tell men a lot about their own status as “men” and their identities in relation to their peers. Mars is considered one of the social planets, though not quite as sociable as Venus.

Mars also reveals what how men go after the women, what they do to impress the woman they want.

Why are men so associated with Martian sexuality (and not women)? Mars is supposed to be the planet that represents sex directly. But since women are more encouraged to channel their yearnings into romance, the actual act is far less important for them. Men, on the other hand, are taught something different. The article 5 Lies that Distort Male Sexuality by Jamie Utt and Men’s Sexual Response by David Delvin expresses that men are often taught to see sex as something for their own pleasure “rather than their partner’s”. Men are often encouraged to see sex as a conquest and to have as many partners as they can. Thus, relationships are seen more as a game or a battlefield. Their role is to try to be the conqueror. This is very similar to the principles associated with Mars.

Men are taught they have to be “in control” sexually. Men feel pushed to be adequate sexually. As a result, men are likely to take sexual risks to build their experience and confidence, regardless of the consequences. They are not shamed for exploring their sexuality to the fullest. On the other hand, a man who can’t have sex for whatever reason will feel a heavy burden. He will feel more pressure to perform and others will make him feel like a loser. Men will more than likely feel “unhappy with their partners” and “disaffected with life” if their partners are not having sex with them. A man will also usually feel “desolate” if the object of his affections reject his sexual advances.

Mars can be a very powerful planet for men, blessing them with freedom, strength, energy, and leadership abilities. But Mars can curse them with rivals and enemies, competition, aggression, violence, tension, and loneliness.

Readers may remember my article regarding men and Venus.

What Does He See in YOU? by the signs

Venus and Mars are two relationship planets in our charts. For most men, Venus is projected onto women. He may often expect women to express qualities he himself doesn’t feel “allowed” to express. Men with Mars in his ruling signs (Aries or Scorpio) or in his exalted placement (Capricorn) have a harder time living up to the principles of Venus and will project their energies more. Men with Mars in detriment (Taurus or Libra) and his falling placement (Cancer) have an easier time with Venus and don’t project as much.

In a man’s chart, Venus represents his feminine ideal, a woman he is drawn to and attracted to. This is the woman he thinks is sexy, good, and perfect.

So if men project Venus on women, how can Mars influence what they expect from women? This is a tricky question and yet simple at the same time. Though men are drawn to certain women because of feminine energies, they still feel they deserve to be catered to by even the most passive woman. Quite frankly, men aren’t so soft. A softer woman would have trouble keeping up with his sex drive, wouldn’t understand his activities, and wouldn’t have the energy to make themselves useful in his life. Venus is superficial. Sometimes, Mars helps us see beyond the superficial and understand what people do and how people really behave.

Women can benefit  from reading this article. This article is useful for women who have a hard time understanding the male mind and may feel confused when dating a man. They may notice that though a man may say he is attracted to her and would often talk about how special she is, he may expect her to treat him the total opposite! So, women may find men difficult to please in this way. Well, women, worry no more! If you look into his natal chart and observe his signs, aspects, and house placements, you will understand him better.

Because men project Venus, this can create some conflict with Mars, especially if there are harsh aspects between the two planets. A good example of this complicated love life would be shown through Michael Jackson’s music. He has Venus in Leo with his Mars in Taurus. Having Venus in Leo, it’s clear he was drawn to dynamic women in his lifetime. Many of the women he was drawn to (as well as those drawn to him) wanted to be a “star”, much like the sun-ruled Leo! In songs like “Dirty Diana” and “Billie Jean”, he mentions women wanting “fortune and fame”, seeking him out just to get media attention. Though he may later dislike these women, he’s initially drawn to them allowing them into his life in the first place. So why does he dislike her later? When thinking about this question, we first have to observe how he sees himself. In music videos like “The Way You Make Me Feel” and “Bad”, we can tell that he’s really a peaceful guy like his fixed earthy Mars in Taurus suggests. He’s actually really affectionate and artistic. He doesn’t see himself as aggressive. He’s more easy-going and pleasant. MJ would rather use his music to impress a girl rather than any bold or assertive tactics. He’s really a loyal, stable man who hates drama! The problem is he keeps attracting drama to himself!

Michael Jackson’s Mars is how he wants to be seen, so it’s how he wants to be treated.

For MJ,  the “drama girl” is him projecting his own “dramatic nature”. He’s only perceiving these women as dramatic. But we can never truly know what’s going inside of a person. We aren’t them. Each person has their own natal charts that may reveal things we may not even expect from a person. The woman he perceives as dramatic and attention seeking may see herself as someone else entirely and may just be reacting to him!  Inside, he’s the one being drawn to the fame, attention, and drama. It’s his internal “Drama King” that has led him to people that bring drama to his life. This is probably why he’s the “King of Pop” in the first place!

In a gay man’s chart, he tends to balance both his masculine and feminine energies well in a relationship, considering he may not feel the need to be the dominant one or the submissive one. He may even use both energies interchangeably. Still, he may feel pressure to conform, like all the other men. Society will make him feel out-of-place if he’s not like other men. He may also feel he has to defend himself more, causing him to express more assertive and strong-willed tendencies. He may not project his Venus on a potential  partner, but he may end up projecting Venus on women in general or on close female friends.

In a woman’s chart, Mars tends to reflect the qualities she would rather project on men and reveals her idea of the “ideal” man. A gay woman is likely to own both her own Mars and Venus, but may not really consider Mars as important as Venus in relationships.

What Does SHE See in YOU? By the signs

What Does HE See in YOU? by the signs

What Does She Want You to See in Her? By the signs

Venus in a woman’s chart will reflect her social identity, what she expects from a relationship, and her own sexuality

So now that you know more about Mars in a man’s chart, we can learn how each man utilizes his own Martian gifts, how each man defines masculinity in his own terms, and his own sexuality through the signs.

*Some parts of the interpretations might be too much for those under the age of 18. Reader discretion is advised.

Mars signs:

Mars in Aries

Mars in Taurus

Mars in Gemini

Mars in Cancer

Mars in Leo

Mars in Virgo

Mars in Libra

Mars in Scorpio

Mars in Sagittarius

Mars in Capricorn

Mars in Aquarius

Mars in Pisces

Mars in Aries

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Male Identity: Mars first enters his own domain when he enters the sign of Aries. Aries is a cardinal fire sign. Here he is at his best, free to be as forceful and assertive as he would like to be. He can get the most accomplished here.

Some Mars in Aries men would like to be seen as strong, assertive, and passionate in the eyes of the object of their affection. They would like someone they’re interested in to see them as super masculine.

Other Mars in Aries men would like their love interests to see them for who they really are. These men like to let it all hang out and be themselves. They are not the most refined types and they are strongly independent. Many times, they aren’t really too serious about anything, not even relationships. They would want a partner to accept everything about them and have fun. So, in this case, no matter what their Venus, they can’t stay with people who restrict them in any way.

When trying to impress the object of his affection, Mars in Aries men are generally forward. They aren’t the types to put on airs. They will make you see how interested they are in you. They act confident, even when they don’t always feel confident.

Some may do daring stunts or fight for the object of their affection, all just to impress this person. They may join competitions or show off at a sporting event. When out with someone they like, they try to take initiative. They might be the ones to pay the bill, even when they weren’t asked to. They are the types to ask for a dance without waiting to see if their partner wants to. They act to make sure things go the way they want it to go.

His weakness is he can be selfish when pursuing the object of his affections. He may not be considerate about the time or place or the person’s circumstances. He may mostly choose dates that are filled with activities he wants to try. Generally, he isn’t accommodating, and would rather have a partner who is on the same page. This would allow him to freely take the lead. He’s also a risk taker and doesn’t often consider the comfort level or safety of the partner when trying things. When you go on a date with this person, be upfront about what you don’t like. Don’t passively go along with the program.

He also has a quick temper. He may not always be abusive (depending on aspects, anyone is capable), but when someone slights him or upsets him, he’s impulsive and often acts without thinking. This can be troublesome for some people.

He’s also competitive. He might compete with other men, even when it’s not warranted. Sometimes, he may feel the need to compete with his own partner, especially if his partner makes more money or is more successful than he is. He might not be comfortable with a partner that dominates him in any way, but sometimes he might enjoy the challenge or receiving attention and stuff for a change.

These men might be rather immature or unrefined at times. I mentioned this. They might say or do things that might seem rude or obnoxious. Generally, they aren’t oily at all.

Another weakness these men might have is their impatience, especially sexually. They want what they want when they want it. This could frustrate people who want to take it slow. And if you’re too slow, they will move on! Did I mention they can be selfish?

Any activities he may enjoy doing with someone has to be exciting and thrilling. They can’t sit still. He may enjoy motorcycling with a love interest, attending a sporting event with a love interest, or even skydiving with a love interest! These activities are sure to get him pumped for another date.

Sexually, these men are passionate. They jump right into sex if they can. They tend to have sex after just one date! However, they tend to be rather forceful, quick, and selfish in the bedroom. They might forget to please their partners and may be more concerned with pleasing themselves. They are generally looking for a partner that has the same drive anyway, so they would want someone who finds pleasure in the same things they do.

They get impatient when they have to wait for sex, though they might also like the challenge.

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Kpop Idols: G-Dragon (Big Bang), Baekhyun (EXO)

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Mars in Taurus

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Male Identity: Mars enters the domain of Venus, his opposite planet, when he moves into Taurus. Taurus is a fixed earth sign. Mars doesn’t feel very comfortable here. Mars is in detriment. Taurus is an easy-going energy. Mars is active and assertive. Taurus takes its time and finishes things on its own time. Mars wants everything done now. Venus is the planet of beauty and charm. Taurus lends the men with this placement attractive qualities. Mars would rather impress others with its actions.

Just because these men have a detrimental placement doesn’t mean they don’t aim to be masculine. In fact, some Mars in Taurus men want their love interests to see them as a traditionally strong man. They want to be the rock in their relationship.

Others want their love interests to see them as people who are affluent, practical, patient, and calm. They would like their love interests to find them attractive, charming, and appealing to all the senses. They particularly try to smell good.

In order to impress their love interests, these men generally like to shell out money or other resources they have. They pick up the tab. They also try to impress their love interests by looking their best, showing calm in a chaotic situation, and by picking and lifting heavy things (just to prove how strong they are).

They might show off a business they own or work for. They might take their love interests to the finest restaurants, just to show they have exquisite taste.

Taurus is ruled by the throat. These men might sing their love interest a song.

Their weakness is they are not open to trying new things. They might do the same things to try to impress their love interests. They might seem a bit conservative or rigid in many ways, too. They generally do what they’re comfortable with. Some people might find this boring.

They are also possessive. They might feel they own a lover when they’ve only gone on one date with someone. They get jealous rather easily.

They are also rather hesitant when approaching a love interest. They aren’t really “go-getters”. This isn’t to say they can’t be outgoing, but when it comes to getting what they want, they take their time. Some may lack confidence or may not be comfortable trying new things for fear of losing their security. Or they just don’t think that they should have to exert too much energy.

Sexually, they enjoy all the sensual pleasures. They like the touch, smells, sounds, and sights of a sexual experience. Venus plays a major role in this regard. He can only be turned on for sex if he’s attracted to his partner. He’s a patient man, and may not like to jump right in. He may enjoy a little pleasurable foreplay or teasing.

He also needs to be comfortable in order to enjoy sex. A comfortable bed or couch is preferable.

Look at his Venus sign to get an idea of what pleases him. Read the Mars sign on this page that is closest. For instance, if he has Venus in Gemini, find Mars in Gemini.

Generally, once he gets started, he can go all night if he wants to. He’s not a rough or experimental man, but he loves playing around with food, whipped cream, sensual baths, and petals of sweet-smelling roses.

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Mars in Gemini

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Male Identity: When Mars enters Gemini, he’s entering the domain owned by Mercury. There are many things Mars has in common with Gemini, and some things he’s not so comfortable with. Gemini is a mutable air sign. Gemini is a busy, busy energy. Mars likes to keep busy. But Gemini is so scattered it lacks focus. Mars likes to accomplish things and likes to focus on one thing at a time. Mars is very direct.

Mars in Gemini men typically want their love interests to see them as fun, charming, clever, intelligent, experienced, and socially aware. They want their love interests to find them funny and unique.

Mars in Gemini men impress their love interests first by flirting, talking with their love interest, and trying to charm them with their wit.

Next, they would try to be more adaptable to impress their love interests. They would rearrange their schedules and bend backwards to make time for their love interests. They would also try many different creative ways of getting their love interest’s attention.

To further impress their love interests, they would try to take their lovers out to all the newest and trendiest spots. They want to show their love interest how open-minded and cultured they are. They might introduce their lover to some fascinating locations they’ve been to, possibly a place their partner hasn’t been to, so they can seem like they’ve experienced a lot. They might show off how smart they are by fixing their love interest’s smartphone or by engaging in an intellectual conversation. They may show interest in a book or article their love interest is reading and they may share whatever it is they’re reading. And they really love to crack jokes. They might crack jokes all night.

Mostly, they try to show a mental interest in their partner. They want their partner to know that they are interested in the mind. That’s why they’re ruled by Mercury. Look at his Mercury sign to get an idea of his conversation. Read the Mars sign on this page that is closest. For instance, if he has Mercury in Cancer, find Mars in Cancer.

They try to impress their lovers in clever ways. They are likely to have little treasure hunts or leave notes leading to places they want to have dates. They send clever and interesting gifts. They want their love interests to be mentally engaged with them.

Because they are ruled by Mercury, they might like to move-that means dance! They might like to show off their dance moves or make their lovers laugh with the way they dance.

His weakness is he can be a little immature. They have a little boyishness about themselves all their lives. Not only do they like to crack jokes, they like to tease and play pranks. They can be mischievous. They also talk A LOT. In fact, they have nervous and wiry energy. They can’t sit still, they don’t listen long, and they talk, talk, talk.

Sexually, these men like to experiment. They are open sexually. They like to try new things. They generally want a partner who is open to new things too, otherwise they will seek multiple partners to satisfy their need for variety.

They generally don’t get too emotionally wrapped up in their sexual partners. Sex is just a fun activity for them. They aren’t the most passionate sex partners, but they’re a whole lot of fun. They generally enjoy quickies. They get bored if they do too much on the first night. They like to leave a little surprise for later.

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Kpop Idols: Kris Wu (EXO), Seungri (Big Bang), Daesung (Big Bang)

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Mars in Cancer

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Male Identity: When Mars enters Cancer, he enters the sign ruled by the Moon. Mars falls in this sign. Cancer is a cardinal water sign. The Moon is the planet of emotions, most associated with women in general, the mother, the “motherland”, and our early home environment or our roots. Mars is a masculine planet, associated with independence, which separates him from his roots. These men often feel a pull. They want to be close to their families, to keep traditions strong, but they also want to be independent and be seen as their own man.

Mars in Cancer men want their love interests to see them in many different lights. Some may want their love interests to see them as strong and protective. They may want their love interests to feel safe around them.

Others may want their partners to see them as good providers and family men.

Other men with this placement may want their love interests to see them as sweet, thoughtful, and understanding.

Mars in Cancer men often try to impress the object of their affections in indirect ways. They try to be there for a love interest whenever they can. They conveniently keep themselves in the presence of their love interest. They try to be a listening ear or “best friend” to a love interest. They should be careful this doesn’t put them in the “friend zone”.

Mars in Cancer men generally try to protect their love interests in even the smallest ways. They walk on the dirtiest side of the sidewalk. When it’s raining, they give their jackets and umbrellas to their love interest. If there’s only two items of food left, they let their love interest have the last bite. They try to pay for everything on a date to show they can provide security.

They might try to protect their love interests in major ways as well. They might fight anyone who insults or harms their love interests in any way. They might avoid locations that can even put their love interest in danger.

They try to remember important things. They try to remember birthdays, anniversaries, or the names of all the members of their love interest’s family. They are likely to introduce their love interest to their own family.

His weakness is that he’s rather sensitive and clingy. He may seem a little insecure. He might follow a lover around like a shadow and may always be suspicious. Or he may just be super sensitive to any little jokes thrown his way. The Moon would reveal more about his emotional temperament. Look at his Moon sign to see more about his sensitivities. Find the Mars sign on this page that mirrors it best. For example, if he has Moon in Leo, find Mars in Leo.

He’s also incredibly shy. He might have a difficult time taking initiative in some ways. It’s hard for him to be DIRECT. He just doesn’t go for who he wants and waits to see if his crush is interested in him first.

Sexually, they enjoy sex more when they feel secure in a relationship. They literally have to have feelings for a person to really feel fulfilled in a sexual partnership. They may not necessarily have to wait for marriage, but they need to at least feel their partner is the one or they have to feel like the only one in their partner’s life.

They are generally moody sexually. They might enjoy different things according to their moods. Sometimes, they may be soft and gentle, albeit a bit traditional and conservative. They still might enjoy some romantic foreplay, like a nice bath or meal at home together beforehand. Other times, they may be rough and aggressive. It all depends. Overall, though, they prefer sex to be performed in a secure and comfortable environment, mostly at home.

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Mars in Leo

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Male Identity: When Mars enters Leo, he enters the Sun’s domain. Mars’s own sign, Aries, is exalted when the Sun enters it. This shows that Mars has a lot in common with Leo. Leo is a fixed fire sign. Mars is a masculine planet and the Sun is considered a masculine planet. The Sun represents the father and manhood. Mars is the masculine principle. Yet, when two dominate forces combine, they are bound to bump heads eventually. Leo is all about “attention” and putting on a “show”. It wants lovers and admirers. It wants to be important. Mars is only concerned with accomplishing goals, overcoming obstacles, and getting what it wants. It’s a planet of action, not “displays” of action.

Mars in Leo men want to be seen as confident, generous, popular, attractive, affluent, and creative in the eyes of their love interest. They might also want their love interests to see them as strong dominant. Some may want to be seen as fun and adventurous.

If they could, they would want their love interests to see them as the ultimate man, anything and everything to anybody. They would want their love interests to always see the best in them, so they often seek to highlight their strengths rather than their weaknesses.

They might try to impress a love interest by bringing attention to themselves and their love in some way. They might sing to a lover, give open proposals, or carry loud signs stating their love. Whatever they do to impress a lover, they like to do it big! And with a whole bunch of people witnessing it all.

They generally like to give a lot to their love interests. They pay for everything. Heck, they may pay for everyone in the restaurant if they have the money like that! Some of them like to appear like they have that kind of money, even when they don’t.

They might take on dares or try to win competitions to impress their love interests.

They love to make their love interests laugh. They like to be the one to keep their love interests entertained.

They might throw large parties or have double dates with a large number of friends and fans just to show off how popular they are. They even want to show off how desirable they are. They may get a kick out of other women flirting with them and making a love interest jealous. They should be careful with this tendency.

These men like to be creative when trying to impress someone. They don’t want to imitate other men or fade in the background as just another guy. They want to stand out and be noticed by someone they like. Whatever it is they decide to do to impress someone they like, it will be unforgettable.

Their weakness is their ego. The Sun would tell you more about that. Look for the Mars sign that’s closest. For instance, if he has Sun in Virgo, look for Mars in Virgo.

While they like to do the most to impress someone, they tend to do things in front of people, not considering the feelings of the person they are trying to woo. It could be a stab to their ego to be turned down or rejected. And then, because they do everything so flashy, they end up embarrassed, too!

They also tend to get frustrated when they’re rejected after doing the most for a love interest. The love interest may not have asked them to go broke or embarrass themselves, but they still might feel salty towards the person they did all of that for. They can’t take outright rejection too well. They should try to be a little less flashy so they won’t feel the loss. They should also try to consider other people’s feelings. Not everyone cares for the flash.

Some people might get the impression that they do things for the show and that they aren’t really serious.

Sexually, these men can be fun, adventurous, and romantic. They generally want to have a good time and they want their partners to feel they had a good time, too. They like their egos stroked.

They may want to dominant though. Some of them want to give, and don’t leave any room for the other person. On the other hand, some may expect the partner to do everything like a humble servant. Some of them may be more concerned with their own satisfaction, they forget to make sure their partner is satisfied. But they don’t like to be talked about negatively, so they will try to satisfy as best they can.

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Kpop Idols: Youngjae (Got7), Tao (EXO)

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Mars in Virgo

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Male Identity: Mars enters the other area belonging to Mercury when it enters Virgo. Virgo is a mutable earth sign. Mars has some things in common with the mutable sign, and some things he doesn’t really feel comfortable with. Virgo is a busy, hard-working sign. Mars likes to keep busy and get things accomplished. But Virgo is earthy, practical, and a little more cautious. Virgo is also scattered. Mars doesn’t hesitate to jump into things, regardless of the consequences. He’s also direct and focused.

Mars in Virgo men want to be seen as pleasing and efficient men. They want their partners to always be happy with them. They may expect themselves to be perfect. They would want their love interests to be easily satisfied because they feel pressure around high-maintenance individuals.

They might want their love interests to see them as hard-working, intelligent, resourceful, ingenious, and creative in some way. They want to be their love interest’s ideal.

They try to impress their love interests by being a humble servant. They will do ANYTHING for someone they are interested in. They will help you clean your house, take care of kids, do your homework, fix your car or bathroom sink (as they are “Mr. Fix-its), and they will even think with you and help you come to a decision.

They aren’t the flashy types. They might not propose to you on live television, but they will pick you up from work, take you out to dinner, and hand you a gift of roses.

These men tend to cater to every little detail when it comes to the things they want to do to impress someone. They plan each step carefully. They try to be creative in a simple way and thoughtful.  They try to show their love interests that they’re attentive and notice the little things about them. Mercury plays a role when it comes to what they actually pay attention to. Look at his Mercury sign and then find the Mars sign on this page that’s closes. For instance, if he’s Mercury in Libra, read Mars in Libra.

Their weakness is they’re perfectionists. Sometimes, they get so lost in the details, they forget the big picture. They might want everything to go so smoothly for a date they often forget why they created the date in the first place. They may focus so much on being the ideal lover they forget to highlight their own personal strengths and express who they really are.

They are also rather modest and shy. It’s hard for them to let go even on an easygoing date. They get nervous and often don’t know what to say or do in some situations, especially if there are things happening that they haven’t rehearsed or planned ahead of time. They may not go out of their way to be adventurous if they hadn’t planned to be.

Sexually, this men aim to please. They want their partner to be satisfied in every way. Just tell them what you want. They also appreciate a lover who takes initiative and aims to please them. They may never ask a lover to do this. They would hope a lover willingly wants to.

Again, they may get so caught in the details of a perfect sexual night, they may forget the greater picture. They might be too focused on the foreplay and getting it down perfectly, they may not get to the act.

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Kpop Idols: Taemin (Shinee), BamBam (Got7)

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Mars in Libra

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Male Identity: Mars enters another one of Venus’s signs, Libra-the cardinal air sign. Mars feels uncomfortable in this position. Mars is in detriment here. There are a lot of things about Libra that rubs Mars the wrong way. Though Libra is one of the extroverted, masculine signs, Libra is like Venus in the fact that it is passive-aggressive, balanced, and superficial. Mars has no time for indecision, moderation, and superficiality. Libra is considerate and thinks about things before taking action. Mars wants to come to quick decisions, go after whatever it wants with fierce intensity so that it can get what it wants faster, and doesn’t really care what anyone looks like while doing it. Libra cares about others; Mars is an independent energy. Libra baffles the planet Mars. Still, Libra is an energetic and positive placement, so Mars can have some fun along the way at times.

Mars in Libra men want their love interests to see them as charming, romantic, attractive, irresistible, fun, affluent, cultured or worldly, and intelligent. They want their lovers to be dazzled.

Generally, they aim to be a “ladies’ man”. They want their love interests to feel swept off of their feet.

They try to impress their love interests by tending to every romantic aspect they can think of. They buy the gifts, give the roses, send the cards, give the kisses and hugs, and they’re known for their chivalry.

They are the types to open the doors, pull out chairs, feed, and lift their love interests. They try to be the knight-in-shining-armor type. They pick their lovers up in a nice and clean vehicle (or even by horse and carriage). They try to look attractive, smell good, and wear a smile. They generally try to put their lovers at ease and win their lovers affections.

These men try to appear intelligent and well-mannered. They discuss sophisticated topics. They appreciate beauty and the arts. They may show off their knowledge in these areas. They might be artistic, musical, or a great dancer.

These men like for their love interests to see them as fun and adventurous. They might enjoy rock-climbing or horseback riding on the beach.

Their weakness is they have a difficult time taking initiative. They might be indecisive and may not know what to do around their love interests. They generally just do whatever their lover wants to do. If their lover is looking for them to make a decision, they will be disappointed. Their favorite thing to do is shrug and say “I don’t know. What about you?” They may try to take initiative but then second-guess many of their choices.

These men are really subtle in their approach. Somewhat, they may give the impression that they lack confidence because they don’t seem sure of themselves.

Another weakness of theirs is the fact that they are natural flirts. Though they are really romantic when they want to be, some people may feel like they treat all the girls the same. They may seem romantic and charming towards everyone, and it might make their love interest insecure. They may have too many obligations to people and may not know how to say “No” to other people’s advances.

Sexually, these men enjoy the sensual aspects of it all. They generally have to be attracted to someone they get sexually involved with, too. Venus plays a role in this. Analyze the Venus sign. Look at the Mars sign that’s closest. For instance, if his Venus is in Scorpio, look at Mars in Scorpio.

They may be adventurous and fun as well as romantic and sensual lovers. However, they aren’t usually too kinky and rough.

Celebrities: Alexander Skarsgard, Kobe Bryant, The Dalai Llama, John Lennon, Elvis Presley, Bill Gates, Freddie Mercury, Eminem, Bill Clinton, Frank Ocean, Sigmund Freud, Nelson Mandela, Jean Reno, Zac Efron, Roman Polanski, Abraham Lincoln, Alfred Hitchcock, Winston Churchill, Jean-Michel Jarre, R. Kelly, Gore Vidal, Niall Horan, Liam Payne, Rain, Jason Derulo

Kpop Idols: T.O.P (Big Bang), Mark (Got7), Yixing (EXO)

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Mars in Scorpio

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Male Identity: Mars traditionally rules over Scorpio. It’s not surprising. Both have intense and passionate energies. Scorpio is a fixed water sign. On the outside, Scorpio is a quiet energy. Within, Scorpio boils with watery feelings that are channeled in a powerful way. Mars can certainly find an outlet for all of his intensity.

Mars in Scorpio men want their love interests to see them as powerful, resilient, wise, magnetic, passionate, and sexy. They don’t want to reveal too much about themselves until they trust the person they want, so they don’t mind being a little mysterious for awhile.

These individuals want their love interest to be wrapped in their spell.

They try to impress love interests by giving their all to the person, whether it be money, time, or energy. They are the types to do whatever it takes to win their love interest’s affections. They are not intimidated by rejection. They know who they want and they aim to get who they want. If it takes a soft romantic approach, they will do it. If it takes a forceful and assertive approach, they will do it. However, their favorite way of getting what they desire is in a quiet and secretive way. Generally, they aren’t the types to put on fancy airs. They feel out a person, get to know a person, and then go after them with everything they’ve got. They may have been observing who they want for a long time, long before anyone else knows.

They are willing to be a little vulnerable, but there still may be some things they keep close to them. If they really feel the person they want is truly to be trusted, they will let it all out.

Their weakness is their intensity. It does fuel their passionate drive. They never give up on trying obtain someone they want. But they do a little too much to try to get who they want. Some of them tend to go overboard, which can be a bit intimidating to others. They need to lighten up a little. Mars and Pluto show you more about his passion and depth. Look at the signs and find the Mars sign that’s closest on this page. For instance if he’s Mars and/or Pluto in Sagittarius, read Mars in Sagittarius.

They are also rather possessive. They may not give their love interest their space or freedom to think about who and what it is they want. Mars in Scorpio is known for giving ultimatums.

These men might also test their love interests, just to see how loyal or into them they really are. This can be frustrating and intimidating to people, too.

Sexually, Mars in Scorpio is famous for their magnetism and raw sexuality. They are passionate and really like to dive in deep into a sexual affair. Their style is not necessarily light, airy, and experimental, but they can be kinky. And they want everything a partner’s got.

They might explore too many sexual experiences within one night, and they may not leave enough for next time.

Some people may find their style to be too much, but those with the same passion will appreciate their sex drive.

Celebrities: Bruce Lee, Ryan Lochte, Kurt Cobain, Jimi Hendrix, Leonardo Dicaprio, Joaquin Phoenix, Marilyn Manson, Jude Law, Mel Gibson, Joseph Stalin, Charlie Sheen, Mark Zuckerberg, Benicio Del Toro, Usher, Jean-Paul Sartre, Karl Lagerfeld, Deepak Chopra, Bobby Brown, Martin Scorsese, Billy Idol, Howard Stern, Danny Devito, Mao Zedong, Bill Murray, Frank Zappa, Hunter S. Thompson, Jean-Paul Gaultier, Dr. Phil, Ravi Shankar, Dylan McDermott, Richard Pryor, Terry Gilliam, Louis Tomlinson, Lloyd Polite, T.I.

Kpop Idols: Jungkook (BTS), Jimin (BTS), Kai (EXO)

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Mars in Sagittarius

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Male Identity: Mars enters the placement ruled by Jupiter. Mars has a lot in common with Sagittarius. Mars likes freedom and independence. Sagittarius likes freedom and independence. But like most mutable signs, Sagittarius scatters its mutable fire in various directions. Sagittarius is too freedom-loving. Mars needs focus and drive, otherwise he gets into trouble. So, there are things Mars is comfortable with and some things he’s not comfortable with here.

Mars in Sagittarius men want their love interests to see them as fun, good-humored, adventurous, honest, open-minded, achievement-oriented, and philosophical. They are ruled by Jupiter. Jupiter will shed more light. Check his Jupiter sign and then find the Mars sign that’s most similar. For instance, if he’s Jupiter in Capricorn, find Mars in Capricorn.

They want their love interests to notice their “no strings attached” approach. They can’t really maintain a long-term relationship with someone who clips their wings, no matter their Venus sign.

Mars in Sagittarius men seek to impress the object of their affections by sharing their adventures with the person. They generally want to appear exciting to the person they want. They may take on dares.

Some of them want to make their love interest laugh. They might try to impress the person with their humor.

They may try to prove their honesty in some way. They may lay cards down on the table about something most people wouldn’t reveal in an attempt to appear “open and honest”.

They might try new restaurants or other new locations, especially if it’s cultural or has an ethnic theme, just to show how open-minded they are.

They like to appear like they’ve achieved or want to achieve something. They may share their goals and dreams. They may exaggerate their achievements a little as well.

They might spend a lot of money on someone they’re interested in. They will max out their credit cards if they really want someone. They should be careful not to be so careless and extravagant. Generally, they tend to be overly optimistic about what they could do to please a love interest and may go overboard to do so.

They might try to appear intelligent or philosophical. They may quote some of their favorite philosophers and books. They might want to show they are spiritual men and may quote verses from religious texts. They often want to appear knowledgeable about the world, like they have a higher understanding.

Their weaknesses are their carelessness and irresponsibility. They generally don’t take things as seriously as maybe the object of their affections may want them, too. They are also not responsible when it comes to remembering their commitments or promises. They tend to talk a good game, but they don’t always deliver everything they aim to.

And because they don’t like their wings clipped, they may go from romantic interest to romantic interest, not really caring who’s heart they’re breaking along the way. They should be careful playing with people’s hearts.

Sexually, these men can be adventurous and fun. Sex can be like a sport to them. They generally like to be open and want the experience to be memorable. Maintaining their fidelity and loyalty may be an issue sometimes, but trying to maintain their loyalty through sex would not work. They may not see sex as a sign of commitment.

On the flip side, some of them may be so into their religions, they may follow their religious principles regarding sex.

Celebrities: Jon Hamm, Joe Manganiello, Ryan Gosling, Bradley Cooper, Lil Wayne,  Javier Bardem, Jules Verne, Gianni Versace, Guy Pearce, Michael C. Hall, H.P. Lovecraft, Elliot Smith, Dick Cheney, Arsenio Hall, Billy Dee Williams, John Cassavetes, George Takei, Charles Mingus, Louis CK, Liam Hemsworth, Stephen Colletti, Simon Baker Skrillex, Joe Nichols, Sean Paul, Louis Tomlinson, Ice Cube, Charlie Puth

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Mars in Capricorn

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Male Identity: When Mars enters Capricorn, the sign ruled by Saturn, he enters his exalted position, his most effective state of being. This may shock people, considering Saturn is falling in Mars’s sign Aries and considering Capricorn is really not like Mars. It’s not that they have similar natures (that’s the role of Mars’s rulership signs). Mars is most EFFECTIVE in this sign, meaning he gets the most accomplished and finds the best channel for all of his energy. Usually, Mars is impulsive, passionate, and fast-paced in getting what he wants. In Capricorn, he can still be ambitious, but he’s able to channel his passionate energy towards goals and his career. He finds outlets for his anger instead of impulsively jumping into senseless fights he’s not prepared for. Capricorn allows Mars to be focused but slows down his pace a bit so that he can really accomplish MORE. But Capricorn doesn’t slow him down too much. Mars can still be a leader in this cardinal earth sign, but he’s more responsible with his actions. Capricorn disciplines Mars so that Mars can accomplish a great deal more. It may feel a little suffocating for Mars, but Mars won’t be disappointed. Mars has to make some sacrifices in this sign, but it’s well worth it in the end.

Mars in Capricorn men want to be taken seriously. They want the object of their affections to see them as dependable, responsible, ambitious, hard-working, and mature men. They want their love interests to see them as competent, cool, and in control.

When trying to impress their love interest, they are generally traditional and practical. They plan out what they are going to do and say before they ask someone out. Usually, they ask someone out formally, in a polite and respectful way.

They generally try to impress the object of their affections by showing off how dependable and responsible they are. They provide receipts of their labor. They like to show their love interest how many things they are responsible for. They might show off a home, car, business, or anything else that shows they can manage their lives well.

They might handle each situation in a mature fashion. They want their love interests to respect them, so they try not to fly off the handle in tense situations and they consider the safety of their partner. They will speak to protect their partner, but they won’t get in all-out brawls while they’re on a date.

Saturn, the planet of limitation and wisdom, is their ruler. Check his Saturn sign and find the Mars sign that’s similar. For instance, if he’s Saturn in Aquarius, read Mars in Aquarius.

They will be there for their love interest whenever their lover needs them. They try to be on time for dates and they try to make sure everything runs smoothly so that their date is comfortable.

They want their love interests to see that they have goals and that they aren’t just stuck in one position. They may discuss some of their goals and the steps they’re taking to reach them.

And they pay for everything! If they ask someone out, they will be the one to pull out the wallet. They aren’t unrealistic though. They buy within their budget and they will point out that they have limitations.

Their weakness is that they are a little too controlled and formal. They have a difficult time just letting loose and getting wild while around their love interest. They may expect everything to go exactly as they plan, and may get a little frustrated when things don’t. They have a bossy tendency as well, which sometimes makes them seem like a big brother or someone’s father.

Some people might find them to be a little formal and outdated in their approach. They aren’t necessarily spontaneous or creative people. They are simple and straightforward when asking someone out.

Sexually, they tend to like it raw and straightforward, like with everything they do. They don’t necessarily care about experimentation or kinks (though they might have some). They generally just like to get down to business.

Celebrities: Marvin Gaye, Brad Pitt, Aleister Crowley, Walt Disney, Bob Marley, Marlon Brando, Robert Pattinson, David Bowie, Rafael Nadal, George Harrison, Jim Carrey, Edgar Cayce, Ewan McGregor, Taylor Lautner, Woody Allen, Jake Gyllenhaal, Usain Bolt, Shia Labeouf, Tom Selleck, P-Diddy, Jerry Seinfeld, Mark Ruffalo, Samuel L. Jackson,  John Wayne, Gavin DeGraw, Big Sean, Ross Lynch (R5), Drake Bell, John Legend, Mac Miller

Kpop Idols: JB (Got7), Yugyeom (Got7), V (BTS)

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Mars in Aquarius

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Male Identity: Aquarius is a fixed air sign, ruled by Saturn and Uranus. Mars has a lot in common with Aquarius. Aquarius is an independent and free energy. Mars likes independence and freedom. But Aquarius is rooted and doesn’t have the passion or drive Mars is used to. Saturn cools Aquarius’s normally erratic nature.

Mars in Aquarius men want the object of their affections to see them as original, unique, intelligent, cool, and independent.

These men are generally friendly and outgoing, and they don’t like people to see them sad, brooding, or depressing.

They try to impress the object of their affections by coming up with surprises. They want whatever they do to be unique and innovative. They want to switch up what they do and do something forward thinking. They want a potential lover to be impressed by their ingenuity.

They also want potential lovers to be impressed by their intelligence. They often talk about high-profile and sophisticated subjects. They normally produce controversial opinions on these topics, just to show that they are independent thinkers.

They want to appear cool and fun. Sometimes, they might seem like they are above petty feelings and behavior. They try to remain detached from situations. They try not to act too jealous or possessive. They try to give their love interest their freedom. They remain hands-off. They try to have a good time with everything and may try to make things easy for a potential love interest.

Even though they have a few ways they try to impress a love interest, nothing is as important to them as being with someone they are already in sync with. They don’t like having to do too much to try to impress someone. Either the person is impressed with them or not. They really can’t deal with high-maintenance and judgmental people too long. Of course they want to see their crush smile, but if the person they’re interested in looks down on everything they do, they will move right on.

Mars in Aquarius men’s weakness is that they are a little too detached and independent. They don’t get too personally involved with people, even people they are interested in. They aren’t the types to sit down and listen to a long sob story.

They do their own thing and expect a love interest to do the same. They are ruled by Saturn, the planet of limits and detachment, and Uranus, the planet of change and independence. Check out those signs and find the Mars sign that’s similar on this page. For instance, if his Saturn and/or Uranus is in Pisces, read Mars in Pisces.

They are also not the most passionate individuals. They won’t do the most just to win someone’s heart and they have a hard time coming out of the head and into the body. They aren’t usually “hugs-and-kisses” types. Sometimes, their cool act can be frustrating.

But then again, these men are full of surprises. You just never know with them. They might bottle up so much passion inside that it explodes later.

Sexually, these men are open-minded, into experimentation, and kinky. They get motivated when they are trying something new and different. They are the types to get into sexting, filming, cross-dressing, and even role-playing. The only thing that may be missing is the passion and the close intimacy. Sex for them is another experiment, not truly a display of their love.

Celebrities: Justin Timberlake, Justin Bieber, Pharrell Williams, Leonardo Da Vinci, Drake, Gerard Butler, Serge Gainsbourg, Jay-Z, Tupac Shakur, Cary Grant, Lance Armstrong, Gary Oldman, Axl Rose, Mark Wahlberg, Ang Lee, Jamie Foxx, Julian Assange, Alec Baldwin, Hugh Hefner, Snoop Dogg/Lion, Howard Hughes, Matt Dillon, Elijah Wood, Adrien Brody, George W. Bush, Akon, Sacha Baron Cohen, Justin Theroux, Tennessee Williams, Rush Limbaugh, Trey Songz, Karl Rove, Harry Styles, Silento,

Kpop Idols: Jonghyun (Shinee), Taeyang (Big Bang), J-Hope (BTS), Xiumin (EXO), LuHan (EXO)

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Mars in Pisces

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Male Identity: Pisces is ruled by Jupiter and Neptune. Pisces is a mutable water sign. Mars likes Pisces’s freedom-loving energy (thanks to Jupiter), but he’s not too fond of Pisces’s passive nature. It has some things in common with the sign, but there are a lot of differences.

Mars in Pisces men want to be seen as self-sacrificing, creative, alluring, and the ideal man. They want their love interests to really accept them overall. They are willing to be anything and everything for win the affections of someone they want.

Mars in Pisces men try to impress their love interests by basically being a chameleon. Whatever their lover needs, they are there. If their love interest is crying, they’re there to be a listening ear and fight their love interest’s battles. If their love interest is stuck in the snow, they will come by to help shovel that person out. If their love interest needs them to be romantic, they get creative. If their love interest needs them to back off, they will.

Their weakness is that they’re not the most direct men in the world. They aren’t the types to just say what they want or take initiative. They generally react to their partner’s demands. This can make them a bit of a doormat.

They also have an issue with pretending to be something they’re not. They don’t try to lie or be fake, but they don’t like disappointing their love interests either. So, some of them may stretch the truth and may pretend to be their love interest’s ideal just to make that person happy. Sometimes, though, this may not make them happy in the long run. There’s a difference between acting as prince for a night to please a lover, while your lover knows who you really are, and pretending you’re a prince when you’re really a pauper.

Sexually, these men have quite the imagination. They can be creative and visionary. They enjoy role-playing a lot. They can be adventurous sex partners. They may be open to experimenting and they enjoy kinks. They can be romantic, sensual, and gentle with a lover. They can try and do it all.

However, some of them may have an idealistic view of sex. They might believe sex is like what they see on TV or online or from what their friends tell them. They are impressionable. They may get so caught up in fantasies about their sexual experiences and adventures that the real thing ends up far more disappointing. In this case, sometimes their expectations are too high. They might go through partners, looking to make their dreams or fantasies come true only to find out that there’s nothing real about a fantasy. They should try to see people for who they really are. It would be best they avoid media and gossip that distorts their image of sex so that they can go into a sexual relationship with few expectations.

They are ruled by Jupiter and Neptune, so it would shed more light on this placement to look at those planets’ signs. Look for the Mars sign on this page that’s closest. For instance, if Jupiter and/or Neptune is in Scorpio, read Mars in Scorpio.

Celebrities: Che Guevara, Lebron James, Heath Ledger, Vincent Van Gogh, Michelangelo, Keith Haring, Tom Hanks, Bob Dylan, Denzel Washington, Steve McQueen, David Beckham, Miles Davis, Josh Brolin, Christoph Waltz, Ian Curtis,  Socrates, Chris Isaak, Ray Liotta, LL Cool J, Vincent Gallo, Paco Rabanne, Desi Arnaz, Michael Cera, Phil Spector, Zack de la Rocha,  Ralph Nader, Art Tatum, Danny Boyle, Corey Haim, Enrique Iglesias, Tupac Shakur, Adam Levine, Machine Gun Kelly, J. Cole

Kpop Idols: Jackson (Got7), Sehun (EXO)

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5 Responses to “What Does He Want You To See in Him? By the signs (Masculine Identity)”

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    Update complete. How do men want women to see them? Look at Mars and find out!

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